Thursday, December 25, 2014
#PrayForPantaiTimur 2014
Wednesday, December 17, 2014
Kahwin Muda? Rasional or not?
Assalamualaikum.
I never against towards couples who kahwin muda. Never. Its halal and good decisions ever. I read alots of this. And I do respect who kahwin muda based on agama, based on elak maksiat, and married while they're student (universiti not school). But now, its like trends, bukan trends yang sihat but trends kahwin underage - means, kau tak habis sekolah lagi but sibuk nak kahwin.
No, aku tak menentang but logically, they're underage and they can't make rasional decisions or thought. How can they be in a marriage, the hardest phase in life ever. Yes aku bersyukur sangat diorang di kahwin kan untuk elak berlaku zina, pembuangan bayi, etc but when someone who haven't learn much about life then get into married life, for sure semua orang boleh fikir pasal akibatnya. Like cerai muda, and if they've child while they're still teenagers, who will be raising those baby?
Whatever decision akan ada bad circumstances. But fikirlah logic untuk masa depan that couple. Kau kahwin and kau drop out from school. How u going to survive and to give all nafkah thingy to your wife and maybe kids. Yes jodoh tu ditangan Allah, but if kau tak terhegeh hegeh, benda tak kan jadi. Same dengan rezeki tu dari Allah, if kau tak usaha Allah nak turunkan ke RM2k bawah bantal kau?
Ok, kau nak nikah jugak dengan alasan elak maksiat. Fine, but habiskan spm. Sekarang bukan macam zaman dulu, dengan sijil darjah 3 kau boleh get a better job. Spm lah serendah rendah sijil dik. Kau nak kawen ke, nak hape ke, habiskan sekolah. Atleast ur parents still can tanggung sampai habis sekolah.
Sekarang tengah viral pasal budak 15tahun (suami) kawen dengan budak 17tahun (bini). And sang suami berenti sekolah dengan alasan kena kerja tanggung bini. Thats why aku panjang lebar terangkan kat atas tu. Matlamat tak menghalalkan cara. Siap lari rumah sebelum kahwin. If they're rasional, could they do that? Then after this bila problems coming, ko nak lari ke mana? Tinggal laki? Tinggal bini?
Plus the things yang paling buat aku berbulu, benda jadi trends. Maksudnya, bila story tu jadi viral, budakbudak sebaya diorang pun akan terikut. Bercinta bagai nak rak then lepas PT3 terus nak kawen. Budak sebaya diorang ni kan memang cepat terpengaruh. So this trends sooo unhealthy !
I'm not going to comment about they parent, how they can makes decision because I know they condition will be like 'ditelan mati mak, diluah mati bapak. Am write this just for change our people views/ideas about this issue.
Monday, December 15, 2014
Ikh'1
#QishNikman
Assalamualaikum.
Bismillah. This post will be an emotional post ever. The major things that I hate be in a relationship that, I'll be losing them. Tak kira la love relay ke, friendship ke. Cerita dah basi pun, but untuk mententeramkan hati sendiri, tahan dulu cerita ni.
My crime patner is married !
Taktau nak act happy or teruja or sedih when she told me that she will be someone's wifey. Like she said, both of us bukan stay kl lagi, so tak rasa sangat. Memang ah tapiiiii... Sedih but deep in my heart, I will always pray for ur happiness.
I know her while both of us study in Uniten. June 2010. Muka bapak kerek plus ada lah issues yang makes me tak berkenan dengan minah ni. Propa sangat issue tu ok! Then macam biasa la, girlssss kan. Gaduh baik gaduh baik gaduh baik sampai lah ke last sem.
Habis belajar terpisah jap then she move to kl while am already in kl like half year. Start balik lah crimes story. Then dua2 berenti kerja and balik kampung masing2 and suddenly now she's married!
Nok, I know am not the best person u ever met, am not the great friend u ever had and I know how annoying I could be sometimes but I will always here and u will always in my heart. Thanks for everything, emo aku, marah aku, bebel aku, jahat aku, mulut aku yang semua kau tahan.
Selamat Pengantin Basi, nok.
May Allah blessed your marriage and live happily ever after with Nikman. Jangan gegaduh, jangan memarah, jangan nenangis. Sabar with all those rintangan yang dah or sedang or bakal.