Wednesday, December 17, 2014

Kahwin Muda? Rasional or not?

Assalamualaikum.

I never against towards couples who kahwin muda. Never. Its halal and good decisions ever. I read alots of this. And I do respect who kahwin muda based on agama, based on elak maksiat, and married while they're student (universiti not school). But now, its like trends, bukan trends yang sihat but trends kahwin underage - means, kau tak habis sekolah lagi but sibuk nak kahwin.

No, aku tak menentang but logically, they're underage and they can't make rasional decisions or thought. How can they be in a marriage, the hardest phase in life ever. Yes aku bersyukur sangat diorang di kahwin kan untuk elak berlaku zina, pembuangan bayi, etc but when someone who haven't learn much about life then get into married life, for sure semua orang boleh fikir pasal akibatnya. Like cerai muda, and if they've child while they're still teenagers, who will be raising those baby?

Whatever decision akan ada bad circumstances. But fikirlah logic untuk masa depan that couple. Kau kahwin and kau drop out from school. How u going to survive and to give all nafkah thingy to your wife and maybe kids. Yes jodoh tu ditangan Allah, but if kau tak terhegeh hegeh, benda tak kan jadi. Same dengan rezeki tu dari Allah, if kau tak usaha Allah nak turunkan ke RM2k bawah bantal kau?

Ok, kau nak nikah jugak dengan alasan elak maksiat. Fine, but habiskan spm. Sekarang bukan macam zaman dulu, dengan sijil darjah 3 kau boleh get a better job. Spm lah serendah rendah sijil dik. Kau nak kawen ke, nak hape ke, habiskan sekolah. Atleast ur parents still can tanggung sampai habis sekolah.

Sekarang tengah viral pasal budak 15tahun (suami) kawen dengan budak 17tahun (bini). And sang suami berenti sekolah dengan alasan kena kerja tanggung bini. Thats why aku panjang lebar terangkan kat atas tu. Matlamat tak menghalalkan cara. Siap lari rumah sebelum kahwin. If they're rasional, could they do that? Then after this bila problems coming, ko nak lari ke mana? Tinggal laki? Tinggal bini?

Plus the things yang paling buat aku berbulu, benda jadi trends. Maksudnya, bila story tu jadi viral, budakbudak sebaya diorang pun akan terikut. Bercinta bagai nak rak then lepas PT3 terus nak kawen. Budak sebaya diorang ni kan memang cepat terpengaruh. So this trends sooo unhealthy !

I'm not going to comment about they parent, how they can makes decision because I know they condition will be like 'ditelan mati mak, diluah mati bapak. Am write this just for change our people views/ideas about this issue.

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